Some Etiquettes When Making Du’a
- The one who is making Du’a’ should believe in Tawheed with regard to the divinity, Lordship, names and attributes of Allaah. His heart should be filled with Tawheed. In order for Allaah to respond to the du’a’, it is essential that the person should be responding to his Lord by obeying Him and not disobeying Him. Allaah says: “And when My slaves ask you (O Muhammad) concerning Me, then (answer them), I am indeed near (to them by My Knowledge). I respond to the invocations of the supplicant when he calls on Me (without any mediator or intercessor). So let them obey Me and believe in Me, so that they may be led aright.”
- We should ask of Allaah by His most beautiful Allaah says: “And (all) the Most Beautiful Names belong to Allaah, so call on Him by them, and leave the company of those who belie or deny (or utter impious speech against) His Names”
- We should praise Allaah as He deserves before we call upon Him. Al-Tirmidhi (3476) narrated that Fadaalah ibn ‘Ubayd said: Whilst the Messenger of Allaah (ﷺ) was sitting, a man came in and prayed and said, “O Allaah, forgive me and have mercy on” The Messenger of Allaah (ﷺ) said, “You have been too hasty, O worshipper. When you have prayed and are sitting, praise Allaah as He deserves to be praised, and send blessings upon me, then call upon Him.”
According to another version (3477): “When one of you prays, let him start with praise of Allaah, then let him send blessings upon the Prophet (ﷺ), then let him ask whatever he likes after that.” Then another man prayed after that, and he praised Allaah and sent blessings upon the Prophet (ﷺ). The Prophet (ﷺ) said: “O worshipper, ask and you will be answered.”
- Sending blessings upon the Prophet (ﷺ). The Prophet (ﷺ) said: “Every du’aa’ is kept back until you send blessings upon the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him).”
- Facing towards the Qiblah: ‘Umar ibn al-Khattaab said: On the day of Badr, the Messenger of Allaah (ﷺ) looked at the Mushrikeen, who were one thousand strong, and his companions numbered three hundred and nineteen. Then the Prophet of Allaah (ﷺ) turned to face the Qiblah, then he stretched forth his hands and started to cry out to his Lord: “O Allaah, grant me what You have promised me, O Allaah, give me what You have promised me. O Allaah, if this small band of Muslims perishes, You will not be worshipped on earth.” He kept on crying out to his Lord, stretching forth his hands, facing towards the Qiblah, until his cloak fell from his shoulders…
Imam al-Nawawi (may Allaah have mercy on him) said in Sharh Muslim: This shows that it is mustahabb to face towards the Qiblah when making du’a’, and to raise the hands.
- Raising the Hands: It is narrated that Salmaan said: The Messenger of Allaah (ﷺ) said: “Your Lord, may He be blessed and exalted, is Kind and Most Generous, and He is too kind to let His slave, if he raises his hands to Him, bring them back empty.”
- The palm of the hand should be raised heavenwards, in the manner of a humble beggar who hopes to be given something: It was narrated from Maalik ibn Yasaar that the Messenger of Allaah (ﷺ) said: “When you ask of Allaah, ask of Him with the palms of your hands, not with the backs of them.”
Should the hands be held together when raising them or should there be a gap between them?
Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen said that they should be held together. What he said is: “As for separating them and holding them far apart from one another, there is no basis for that in the Sunnah or in the words of the scholars.”
- Having certain faith that Allaah will respond, and focusing with proper presence of mind, because the Prophet (ﷺ) said: “Call upon Allaah when you are certain of a response, and remember that Allaah will not answer a du’a’ that comes from a negligent and heedless ”
- Asking frequently. A person should ask his Lord for whatever he wants of the good things in this world and the Hereafter, and he should beseech Allaah in du’a’, and not seek a hasty response, because the Prophet (ﷺ) said: “The slave will receive a response so long as his du’a’ does not involve sin or severing of family ties, and so long as he is not ” It was said, “What does being hasty mean?” He said: “When he says, ‘I made du’a’ and I made du’a’, and I have not seen any response,’ and he gets frustrated and stops making du’a’.”
- He should be firm in his du’a’, because the Prophet (ﷺ) said: “No one of you should say, ‘O Allaah, forgive me if You wish, O Allaah, have mercy on me if You wish’; he should be firm in his asking, for Allaah cannot be ”
- Beseeching, humility, hope and fear. Allaah says: “Invoke your Lord with humility and in secret” He also says: “And remember your Lord within yourself, humbly and with fear and without loudness in words in the mornings and in the afternoons”
 Qur’an: Surah al-Baqarah :186
 Qur’an: Surah al-A’raaf 7:180
 Sahih: Recorded in Sunan Tirmidhi. Graded as Sahih by al-Albaani in Sahih al-Tirmidhi, 2765, 2767.
 Sahih: Recorded by al-Tabarani in al-Awsat, 1/220. Graded as Sahih by sheikh al-Albaani in Sahih al-Jaami’, 4399
 Sahih: Recorded in Sahih Muslim (1763)
 Sahih: Recorded in Sunan Abu Dawud no. 1488. Graded as Sahih by Shaykh al-Albaani in Sahih Abi Dawud, 1320.
 Sahih: Recorded in Sunan Abu Dawud no. 1486. Graded as Sahih by Shaykh al-Albaani in Sahih Abi Dawud, 1318.
 Taken from al-Sharh al-Mumti’(4/25)
 Hasan: Recorded in Sunan Tirmidhi, 3479; Graded as Hasan by Shaykh al-Albaani in Sahih al-Tirmidhi, 2766.
 Sahih: Recorded in Sahih Bukhari, 6340 and Sahih Muslim, 2735.
 Sahih: Recorded in Sahih Bukhari, 6339 and Muslim, 2679
 Qur’an: Surah al-A’raaf :55
 Qur’an: Surah al-A’raaf :20