Authentic Narrations Relating To Ways of Controlling Anger

(1) Seeking refuge with Allaah from the Shaytaan:

Saying:

أَعُوذُ بِاللهِ مِنَ الشَّيْطَانِ الرَّجِيمِ

I seek refuge with Allah from the accursed devil (shaytaan).[1]

Sulayman ibn Sard said: “I was sitting with the Prophet ﷺ and two men were slandering one another. One of them was red in the face, and the veins on his neck were standing out. The Prophet ﷺ said, ‘I know a word which, if he were to say it, what he feels would go away. If he said “I seek refuge with Allaah from the Shaytaan,” what he feels (i.e., his anger) would go away.’”[2]

(2) Keeping silent:

The Messenger of Allaah ﷺ said: “If any of you becomes angry, let him keep silent.”[3]

(3) Not moving:

The Messenger of Allaah ﷺ said: “If any of you becomes angry and he is standing, let him sit down, so his anger will go away; if it does not go away, let him lie down.”

The narrator of this hadeeth (report) is Abu Dharr (may Allaah be pleased with him), and there is a story connected to his telling of it: he was taking his camels to drink at a trough that he owned, when some other people came along and said (to one another), “Who can compete with Abu Dharr (in bringing animals to drink) and make his hair stand on end?” A man said, “I can,” so he brought his animals and competed with Abu Dharr, with the result that the trough was broken. [i.e., Abu Dharr was expecting help in watering his camels, but instead the man misbehaved and caused the trough to be broken]. Abu Dharr was standing, so he sat down, then he laid down. Someone asked him, “O Abu Dharr, why did you sit down then lie down?” He said: “The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: . . .” and quoted the hadeeth.[4]

(4) Following the advice of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him):

Abu Hurayrah, may Allaah be pleased with him, reported that a man said to the Prophet ﷺ, “Advise me.” He said, “Do not become angry.” The man repeated his request several times, and each time the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) told him, “Do not become angry.”[5]

(5) Do not become angry and Paradise will be yours: 

The Prophet ﷺ said: “Whoever controls his anger at the time when he has the means to act upon it, Allaah will fill his heart with contentment on the Day of Resurrection.”[6]

Another great reward is described in the Prophet’s words: “Whoever controls his anger at the time when he has the means to act upon it, Allaah will call him before all of mankind on the Day of Resurrection, and will let him choose of the Hur al-’Iyn whoever he wants.”[7]

(6) Knowing the high status and advantages offered to those who control themselves:

The Prophet ﷺ said: “The strongest man is the one who, when he gets angry and his face reddens and his hackles rise, is able to defeat his anger.”[8]

Anas reported that the Prophet ﷺ passed by some people who were wrestling. He asked, “What is this?” They said: “So-and-so is the strongest, he can beat anybody.” The Prophet ﷺ said, “Shall I not tell you who is even stronger than him? The man who, when he is mistreated by another, controls his anger, has defeated his own shaytaan and the shaytaan of the one who made him angry.”[9]

(7) Following the Prophet’s example in the case of anger:

The Prophet ﷺ is our leader and has set the highest example in this matter, as is recorded in a number of ahaadeeth. One of the most famous was reported by Anas, may Allaah be pleased with him, who said: “I was walking with the Messenger of Allaah ﷺ and he was wearing a Najraani cloak with a rough collar. A Bedouin came and seized him roughly by the edge of his cloak, and I saw the marks left on his neck by the collar. Then the Bedouin ordered him to give him some of the wealth of Allaah that he had. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) turned to him and smiled, then ordered that he should be given something.”[10]

(8) Knowing that resisting anger is one of the signs of righteousness (taqwaa):

The righteous (al-muttaqoon) are those praised by Allaah in the Qur’aan: “spend (in Allaah’s Cause) in prosperity and in adversity, [they] repress anger, and [they] pardon men; verily, Allaah loves al-muhsinoon (the good-doers).”[11]

(9) Listening to reminders:

Anger is a part of human nature, and people vary in their anger. It may be difficult for a man not to get angry, but sincere people will remember Allaah when they are reminded, and they will not overstep the mark.

Ibn ‘Abbaas (may Allaah be pleased with him) reported that a man sought permission to speak to ‘Umar ibn al-Khattaab (may Allaah be pleased with him), then he said: “O son of al-Khattaab, you are not giving us much and you are not judging fairly between us.” ‘Umar (may Allaah be pleased with him) was so angry that he was about to attack the man, but al-Hurr ibn Qays, who was one of those present, said: “O Ameer al-Mu’mineen, Allaah said to His Prophet ﷺ : ‘Show forgiveness, enjoin what is good, and turn away from the foolish’ [al-A’raaf 7:199]. This man is one of the foolish.” By Allaah, ‘Umar could go no further after al-Hurr had recited this aayah to him, and he was a man who was careful to adhere to the Book of Allaah.[12]

(10) Knowing the bad effects of anger:

‘Ilqimah ibn Waa’il reported that his father (may Allaah be pleased with him) told him: “I was sitting with the Prophet ﷺ when a man came to him leading another man by a rope. He said, ‘O Messenger of Allaah, this man killed my brother.’ The Messenger of Allaah ﷺ asked him, ‘Did you kill him?’ He said, ‘Yes, I killed him.’ He asked, ‘How did you kill him?’ He said, ‘He and I were hitting a tree to make the leaves fall, for animal feed, and he slandered me, so I struck him on the side of the head with an axe, and killed him.’ . . .”[13]

 

[1] Reported by Bukhari No# 3282, 6048, 6115; Muslim No# 2610; Abu Dawud No# 4780, 4781

[2] Reported by al-Bukhaari, al-Fath, 6/337

[3] Reported by Imaam Ahmad, al-Musnad, 1/329; see also Saheeh al-Jaami’, 693, 4027

[4] The hadeeth and this story may be found in Musnad Ahmad, 5/152; see also Saheeh al-Jaami’, no. 694

[5] Reported by al-Bukhaari, Fath al-Bari, 10/456

[6] Reported by al-Tabaraani, 12/453, see also Saheeh al-Jaami’, 6518

[7] Reported by Abu Dawud, 4777, and others. It is classified as hasan (sound) in Saheeh al-Jaami, 6518

[8] Reported by Imaam Ahmad, 5/367, and classified as hasan in Saheeh al-Jaami’, 3859

[9] Reported by al-Bazzaar, and Ibn Hajr said its chain is saheeh. Al-Fath, 10/519

[10] Reported by Bukhari and Muslim. Fath al-Baari, 10/375

[11] Surah Aal ‘Imraan 3:134

[12] Recorded by al-Bukhaari, al-Fath, 4/304

[13] Reported by Muslim, 1307, edited by al-Baaqi

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